On Feelings, Vulnerability and Relationships: A Conversation with Archie Messersmith-Bunting


Can you recall the number of times you’ve asked someone how they’re doing? We usually ask this question harmlessly after meeting someone new or seeing a friend after a while. More often than not, the answer we get is simple — ‘I’m fine’. But what if we change this question to something else?

In this episode, award-winning speaker and author Archie Messersmith-Bunting challenges us to focus on our feelings and ask people how they’re feeling instead of how they are. He shares how this practice changed his life and put him on the path of self-rediscovery. Archie also tells us the importance of cutting toxic people out of our lives and standing up for ourselves.

If you want to stop being uncomfortable and fearful, tune in to this episode!

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode



DISCOVER why vulnerability is essential in making connections.


GAIN valuable insights from Archie’s struggle with homophobia and depression and how he learned to accept himself.


LEARN how you can move on from your shameful experiences.

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“You can’t help feeling how you feel. I believe feelings are going to come. What I am in control of is what I do with that. Am I going to sit in it and just live in this muck? Or am I going to own the fact that okay, it’s back, it’s one of those days, let me see what I can get accomplished”?

“I believe that everyone has to find their path. And there’s a path for everyone… I’m glad there are other ways that people can find a path to healing and recovery”.

You’re actually not going to have [any] connection if there’s no vulnerability”.

We do have a choice in who we get to stay connected to. Just because we love them does not mean they get to be an active participant in my life

“We are trained not to really give a shit about anybody else…[but] we need to stop it because I believe that if we stop and talk about our feelings, we can save lives”.

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About Archie


In addition to being an award-winning speaker and author, Archie Messersmith-Bunting is also a champion for mental health awareness worldwide at corporations and universities. He founded ArchieCares, LLC, to change the narrative around mental health illnesses and addiction by facilitating honest conversations.

Reach out to Archie by visiting his website or connecting with him on LinkedIn or Twitter.

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