How To Stop Projecting: A Monologue From Lee


When we lack self-awareness, we tend to project our inner reality onto the world and expect other people to understand. We become overly defensive and reactive and, in doing so, prevent constructive dialogue from taking place. But if you paid close attention, you’ll realize that projecting is often less about the other person than it is about you.  


In this monologue episode, I teach a simple but powerful trick to help you stop projecting. When you find yourself triggered or operating from a place below-the-line, take a step back and assess why you’re acting that way. I also share how to approach emotionally charged situations so you can respond with greater empathy and compassion. 


Listen to the full episode to learn how to stop projecting and increase your self-awareness.

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DISCOVER the three circles of candour and how to build an environment of trust and honesty.


ENHANCE your self-awareness to recognize when you’re projecting.


LEARN how to frame your thoughts to have more constructive and honest conversations.

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“You go on this mission of personal growth and personal evolution to learn more and more and more about what is going on. And what a great place to start than your own self-awareness: to be aware of how you're behaving, why you're doing the things you're doing”.

“So whenever you get into a funk and you start blaming, criticizing, or judging someone, ask yourself. Hang on a minute, before I go any further, how can this be about me? How could I be projecting here? Maybe this isn't about them at all and then deal with your own shit”.

“We need to find out what the truth [is]. We need to learn, if we want to be conscious human beings, to live with inarguable truths. So we need to ask if this is true, right? We need to turn around and say, express how we feel and express out what we're thinking and ask is this true? And then when the other person gives you an answer, you've got to trust that their answer is truthful”.

“How can you make sure [of] that? Where's the truth there? Where's the reality? Where's the truth? What, you know, where's the reality? Where's the illusion? You ask. So now I've got into the habit of saying either “I feel”, “I am having the thought that”, or “I noticed,” and I talk about how I'm feeling in my body”.

“Speaking candidly is really important, okay? It's all about telling truth, not telling lies, but allowing and creating an environment so those around you feel that they can tell the truth and that they don't have to lie”.

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About Lee


Lee Davy founded 1000 Days Sober angry and frustrated that he had been hoodwinked into believing alcohol provided him with incredible value. When he realised that it had no value whatsoever, he vowed to help as many people as he could see that truth.

What started as a blog about Lee's experience morphed into a podcast, a course and now a community for people who want to live fulfilled lives as people that don't drink alcohol. As the founder of 1000 Days Sober, Lee currently serves as the creative driving force behind the program, the podcast's voice and the leader of the community.

He is married to 1000 Days Sober coach Liza Lim, and they have two children, Jude and Zia. He currently lives in Los Angeles, California. When Lee is not helping people see the truth about alcohol, he is a writer, producer and content creator in the poker world.

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